Gabrielle Bernstein: “Spirit Junkie” | Talks at Google

Gabrielle Bernstein: “Spirit Junkie” | Talks at Google

September 12, 2019 0 By William Hollis


>>Alex: So hi everyone, welcome to our [email protected]
series. Today we have Gabby Bernstein. She’s a, according to the New York Times Sunday
Style section, she’s our next generation guru, a motivational speaker, a life coach and an
author. Her new book is Spirit Junkie, which you can get for a Google discount of $10 right
over there and you can take it away Gabby.>>Gabrielle Bernstein: Thanks Alex. Hi everybody.
[audience murmurs response] Thank you so much for coming out. I got word this afternoon
that it is assessment time at Google, so hopefully I can calm any nerves that might be happening
during assessment time and help you raise your own personal assessments today. [giggles]
But thank you for coming out. Thank you for showing up.
I am out here on my book tour for this new book, Spirit Junkie, which is my second book.
My first book came out in 2010 and it’s called Add More -ing to Your Life — A hip guide
to happiness. Ing, i-n-g, stands for inner guidance, not the other ING, [chuckles] but
it’s inner guidance, not the bank. And I’ve been practicing and teaching principles for
transforming your perceptions and creating positive changes in your life and I’ve been
teaching this work for the past six years. And I came to write this second book as a
result of many of my readers, my first book came out and many of the -ing readers came
to me and said, we love this book, it’s so prescriptive, it’s really helping us, I love
taking all this action in my life, but I wanna know more about how you became the happiest
person you know. How did you change your perceptions? How did you overcome your fears? How did you
get over addiction? How did you get over work addiction, love addiction, drug addiction,
all the different things that each of us in some corner of our life deals with in some
way? And so, I, I had to listen to that call of my readers and I was inspired and guided
to write this new book, Spirit Junkie, and really put my story on paper and be very authentic
about who I am and what my experiences have been so that I could not only be a genuine
messenger, but also be a guide for those who were inspired by my story. So throughout each
chapter in every book there is my own personal anecdotes of how I’ve experienced my fear-based
illusions and how I’ve transformed them and within every chapter there’s also beautiful
guidance, there’s tips, which I’m gonna give you many of them today. And so it’s not, it’s
not just a memoir, it’s a memoir-style-guide book is what I’ve written, so it gives you
this opportunity to soak up someone else’s experience, be inspired by somebody else’s
story, but in the same moment, take on your own experience of creating whether it be a
spiritual relationship or you could call it a relationship with your own internal guidance
system, or activating your inspiration, or creating more life flow.
A big, a big thing that happens when people come to my lectures or come to my groups or
read my books, is that a common through line with most of the people that come to me is
that they’re feeling as though at least one corner of their life is not flowing naturally.
They’re feeling like, ok, I think things could be dialed up a little bit more in my career
area, or I have a great relationship to my finances, but I’m a complete mess in my romantic
relationships. Or there’s some corner that feels as though it could be more amplified,
it could be more inspired, it could flow more naturally. Or maybe it’s every corner. Many
people come to me and they say, across the board things are tough, I’m in fear. And so
all of my work is to help my readers and my listeners and my audiences learn to shift
their perceptions and create change in their life. And so what I’ll do today is I’ll give
you a little bit of a background about how I became the happiest person I know, how I
became a spirit junkie and then within that story, I’m gonna give you some guidelines
for you to start to do the same. And the purpose of this book and my, my goal for this book
was not to say, ok, here is my story, here is how I did it, here is how you have to do
it. But rather just to create a platform for you to crack open, to have the willingness
to make your own change and to help you create a relationship, a spiritual relationship or
a, an inspired relationship to your own inner guidance system of your own understanding.
So this isn’t about you just saying, ok, I’m gonna take her work and do it my way, it’s
about you opening up and creating your own path through the guidance I’ll give you.
So throughout my experience of writing this book, I really tell this story of how throughout
my life, from adolescence to the present, I have been hearing this knock on the door,
this inspiration, this inner dialogue, this voice within me that has said, be great, be
wonderful, love yourself, have an incredible life, you can do this, you can have what you
desire, you can achieve a life beyond your wildest dreams. And each of us has that loving
voice within us. Each of us has that intuition, I call it your ing, your inner guide, that
loving presence within you that is like, yes, you rock, you can do this. But at some point
in time, most of us at a very young age, we pick up this negative belief system. We pick
up the beliefs of the world, we pick up the fears of our parents, we pick up the fears
of our, of the news, of the people on the playground, of our teachers. At some point
in time we pick up this one negative mad idea, it becomes like a virus in our mind. And these
different limiting beliefs come to each of us in different ways. For some people it might
be just something as simple as maybe your parents didn’t pay attention to you. So you
feel ‘I’m not good enough because when I was six my parents didn’t pay attention to me’.
And this, it could be as simple as this. Or it could be something much more traumatic
that you know, all of us have different pain experiences throughout our lives. But at some
point in time, that negative belief system is imprinted within our emotional being and
we recreate that belief system. We replay that negative thought pattern. We take that
negative thought pattern and bring it into our present moment and we project it on to
the future. And it becomes like this spiral and we become stuck. We stay cornered in these
negative patterns. I’m sure most everyone in this room in some area in your life feels
as though you keep replaying the same crazy crap over and over and over again. And just
get honest with yourself right now. You don’t have to get honest in front of all of your
coworkers, but get honest with yourself right now and just be really clear with yourself
of what are the areas where I’m replaying all that stuff? Where am I saying to myself,
I’m not good enough? In what ways am I replaying that belief system that I picked up as a kid?
It’s something as simple as ‘I’m not feeling like I can have that career’ or growing up
with the experience of lack in your home and then believing in lack and never feeling as
though you can make more money. Or seeing your divorced family and seeing that you know
‘I can’t have a powerful, loving relationship because this is what I grew up around’.
And so for me this was the case in many different corners of my life. I was this adolescent
girl having an existential crisis and I felt as though I was really confused when most
of my contemporaries were worried about the prom and you know what they’re having for
lunch, I cared more about why I was here. I always had this deep desire to know what
is the purpose? What is my purpose? Why am I here at this time? And there was this, this
16-year old girl and this, this crazy mindset of what’s going on? And as many young people,
I experienced a lot of depression. I felt as though I was just stuck. I felt as though
I was misunderstood. And so for me, I grew up in the suburbs with this Yogi mom and a
hippie dad and I turned to my mom for guidance. I said to my mom, listen, I see you walk into
your meditation shrine every day. I hear that mantra coming through the door. I smell the
incense pouring out through underneath the door. What goes on in that room? I see you
go in crazy and I see you walk out calm. What goes on in that room? I want some of that.
And so I said if I want what she has, I gotta do what she does. And so as a 16-year old
girl I turned to my mother and I said, show me what you got. Give me that meditation practice.
Teach me what you’re doing. And so my mom sat my ass down on a meditation pillow [laughs]
and she taught me how to meditate. And so at 16 years old I was desperate. I was willing.
I had this deep desire to change. I needed a solution. And so I allowed my mom’s words
to come through me, I allowed the mantra to come through me and I began, at the time,
what began my meditation practice. And so I felt this amazing connection from the beginning
stages of my practice. I started to feel that within five minutes of sitting in stillness
and deep breathing and practicing the mantra that I could actually feel more calm. I witnessed
my extremities begin to tingle. I felt like I was connecting to a much greater energy
than the energy that I was just dealing with on my day to day life. I felt inspired ideas
come forward. I felt, most importantly, peace. I felt a sense of peace, a sense of oneness,
a sense of being good enough, a sense of being understood even though nobody else was around.
And so this was a really neat time for me. It was this beautiful seed that my mom had
planted that would then become the catalyst for many changes in the future. But, like
most smart-ass adolescent girls, I thought that there was a better way. I said, ok, that’s
cool, I got that now, but there’s gotta be a way better way than this. So I did what
most kids do, which is, you know, I rolled the joint and drank a 40. And I said ok this
is, this is the other way. Right? It’s something out there is gonna make me happy. Something
beyond me is gonna be my source of peace. And so for several years, from 16 to about
the age of 25, I was on a big search for that outside source of happiness. I was looking
for it in my credentials. I was looking for it in my relationships. I was looking for
it in a pair of shoes. I was living in New York City when I graduated
college and at 21 years old I started a public relations business representing night clubs.
And so I was out there feeling like, ok, now I have arrived. I had this credential and
it says president on my business card and I’m 21-years old and I am hot shit. Sorry.
Can I curse at Google? I’m not sure. [laughing] I guess so, it’s comfortable here. Should’ve
asked that first, right Alex? So meanwhile I’m sitting here thinking that I’m this great,
this great thing because I’ve got these outside credentials, I’ve got this fast-paced New
York City lifestyle. I have it made. This is working for me. Meanwhile, that search
became this addiction. Looking for more happiness. Once I would get that client, I needed more.
When I had that relationship, I needed a different relationship. And I constantly felt like I
was this hamster in a wheel, searching and searching and searching for happiness and
inspiration outside of myself. One day at a time I kept looking further and further
and further. By the time I turned 25, I had a really hardcore revelation that that was
not where I was gonna find it. By this point in my outward search I was emotionally, spiritually
and physically bankrupt. I had, I had no real friends. No strong inspiration. I had found
myself really addicted to the New York City party scene and feeling like that became my
home and my lifestyle and that reflected in some really nasty habits. I also would see
myself just up at night doing God knows what. But in the midst of all this there was still
that inspired voice within me. There was that loving voice, that power voice within me that
said, there’s something coming. There’s something greater. I’d be up at 3 a.m. at after-hours
parties in New York City saying to God knows who, “I’m gonna be a motivational speaker
and a self-help book author.” [chuckles] And somehow I believed me, I really believed this.
I intuitively, psychically, knew that there was this thing coming even though it did not
reflect in any form the life that I was living at that time.
And so by the time I turned 25 I thought to myself, ok, this is not working. Life is not
flowing. And that divine moment when I said to myself, there has to be a better way. I
had that moment of surrender. And so this is the first lesson I’m gonna give you today
which is that all you need to make any change to your life is the deep surrender and the
willingness to change. And so I had that. It was October 2, 2005, at 3:00 in the morning.
And I was sitting at home and I was coming down from God knows what. I was you know late
nights whatever it was all of the crazy crap that I had been putting into my body, all
of the terrible ways that I had been living and I was writing in my journal and I wrote,
“God, universe, whoever is out there, I need a miracle.” There has to be a better way.
This was the moment that I fully surrendered. This was the moment that I said, “Show me
what you got.” I woke up that morning and I heard a really loud internal dialog. A really
strong intuition. It said, “Get your life clean and you will live beyond your wildest
dreams.” This loud voice was very authoritative and very clear and I had no other choice but
to listen to that guidance. And so from that day, October 2, 2005, I have been listening
to that voice. And one day at a time I have been opening up that willingness to be guided
to the teachers, the lessons, and all of the universal guidance that we receive once we
become willing to change. And opening my heart one day at a time to make these shifts within
my own life. And so it’s that beautiful line when the student is ready, the teacher will
appear. And this is the case for me and I’m sure it will be for many of you in your life.
When once you make that willingness to change, the book falls off the shelf. Or the teacher
shows up in a form that you could have never imagined. Or you hear something on the radio,
or you meet a cab driver or some enlightened conversation comes into your realm that all
of a sudden is that shift that you needed to make that change and create that catalyst
that becomes your greatest accomplishment, your greatest shift. And so that’s all we
need at first, is that slight willingness. That willingness that I had, that desire to
change, that moment to shift was all I needed to become the woman I am today. To live that
life beyond my wildest dreams. And so when I became ready, I opened up and I said, “Ok,
I’m ready for change.” But what’s beautiful and what is the main
purpose of what I teach is that once you make that decision to change, you do not have to
do it by yourself. You cannot be expected to make these changes on your own. All you
need is that slight willingness. With that willingness you open up and like I said your
teacher will be guided to you like a magnet way faster than you can imagine. And that
teacher, I know that Thich Nhat Hanh was here last week, did you, have many of you, I hope
every one of you followed that man wherever he was on this campus because that was one
of my greatest teachers at that time. When I opened up I read Peace is in Every Step.
I would sit there in a subway station. I would sit on the grass. I would sit wherever I was
and I would just read Peace is in Every Step. That was one of my greatest teachers and so
Thich Nhat Hanh became my teacher in the form of a book.
Marianne Williamson, a great spiritual teacher, became a beautiful guide for me. I would listen
to her audio albums like a top-40 hit. And Marianne teaches a metaphysical text called
A Course in Miracles. And it became very clear to me that the way that she was teaching the
course was really something that would resonate with me deeply. And that many spiritual teachers
come to a path that is their guided path to teach. And it became very, very obvious that
I was to be a teacher of these messages. And so I came to her about a year into my practice
of studying the course through her interpretation. And the Course in Miracles is a, is channeled
material, it’s metaphysics. It’s not, it’s totally non-denominational, but it is the
purpose and the message behind A Course in Miracles is that we need to shift our perceptions
to create miraculous change in our life. So we need to take our fear-based projections
and turn them into a more loving, more positive perspective, so that we can change our thoughts
and change our energy and therefore change our life’s experience. And so this is quite
simple. Our, our thoughts affect our energy. And our energy affects everything outside
of us. And so what I learned as a student of A Course in Miracles is that the outside
world is a reflection of my internal state. And A Course in Miracles teaches that projection
is perception. So whatever you are projecting on your internal movie screen, right, I’m
not good enough, I’m not good enough, I can’t get that raise, I can’t get that raise, I
can’t get a girlfriend, I can’t get a girlfriend, like you know I suck, I suck, I suck, I suck.
Whatever it is. Whatever you’re walking around with, you are projecting onto your life. That
internal projection makes perception. Your internal movie screen is what you are perceiving
to be your reality. And so I, I became extremely conscious of what my internal movie screen
was saying. I became extremely aware. That’s the second step I’m gonna give you. I will
recap all of this for you, but it’s very, very important to recognize that one of the
most powerful tools we have is to become the witness to our thoughts. And so as a student
of this messaging, I came to my teacher, Marianne Williamson, I went to visit her at a lecture
that she was hosting in New York and I raised my hand in the audience and I said, “Ok, Marianne,
how would you suggest I carry this message to my generation?” And she looked at me and
she psychically knew, she said, “Ok, this is a, this is a job for you, I get this. This
is what you’re gonna do.” And she said, the book A Course in Miracles is written in three
sections, and she said, “Read the text.” And the text is really where you begin to embark
on that reconditioning. Where you learn all the principles throughout the messages of
how we choose our fear-based projections. How we project those fears onto others. How
we’re unwilling to forgive. All of the different ways that fear gets us in a headlock. That’s
what the text guides us to understand. And then she said, “Do the workbook.” This is
365 days of daily meditations, where you begin to go through a daily practice of reconditioning
your thoughts. From fear back to a positive perspective. And then she said, “Read the
teacher’s manual. And then ask the universe God, whatever you talk to, ask God how you,
how he plans for you to carry this message to your generation.”
And so I did just that. I became a student of A Course in Miracles and I’ve been asking
ever since, how can I carry these messages? And most importantly the main message I got
was just be the student, be the student, be the student. As a teacher, my primary purpose
is to be a student every day. And what I’ve learned in the past six years as a teacher
of spirituality, as a teacher of A Course in Miracles, is that the world is my classroom
and people are my assignments. So every single moment offers me this divine opportunity to
go deeper into fear or to strengthen my faith in love and positivity and a higher level
way of being. And so I’m gonna give you some of the tools that I’ve been practicing as
a spirit junkie in the past six years. I can give you a greater understanding of how you
can take these tools into your personal experiences immediately. The neat thing that happens when
you have that awakening and that moment of ‘yes, I’m ready for change’ and that teacher
shows up and you’ve been given these tools is that you can create quantum shifts in your
life immediately. The moment that you choose to shift your perception a miracle occurs.
And the miracle is that you feel better. The miracle is that you raise your energetic thought
and therefore raise your energy and then the world around you starts to vibrate at a different
frequency. So think about it for a second, those of you
who have coworkers who walk in, this place is pretty happy, people. I’m not really too
concerned about what’s going on here. You guys are well taken care of, you’re well fed.
It’s sunny outside. But you have those days when you come into the office and you come
in with a really bad attitude, right? Let’s just say you got in late or something’s happening
at home and you come in and you’ve got a bad attitude. When you come in with that bad attitude,
I’m assuming that you lower the energy of those around you. People start to get a little
bit negative back to you. Maybe those e-mails are not coming in as quickly as you want.
Maybe you’re not figuring out the things that you need. You’re not given the energetic support
that you need to show up for this big job which you all have at your highest capacity.
So your low-level thoughts are affecting your low-level energy and therefore affecting your
experience in the job, or your experience on a date, or your experience in the gym.
Whatever it is, however you are functioning with low-level thoughts, you are affecting
low-level energy and therefore affecting your life’s experience. So all of the things that
I’m gonna begin to teach you are about how you can raise your thoughts, have more faith
in a higher-level way of thinking and therefore have, more important, a higher-level way of
being, a more enlightened experience, a more inspired experience. Another part of what
this work does is that when we start to shift our perceptions, when we start to see things
with a better perspective, when we start to see our experiences as obstacles turning into
opportunities, or a resentment as a divine assignment to forgive more or a moment of
lack as an opportunity to focus on what we’re grateful for rather than focus on what we
don’t have. When we start to make these shifts within our life, what begins to happen is
that we begin to have more faith in that way of being. And so the neat thing that occurs,
and this has been my experience the past six years of practicing the life of a spirit junkie,
is that now my choices, my moment to moment choices, are choosing more of a positive perspective.
When there’s traffic my first thought is, ok, I welcome the traffic to go, I start to
think about the way, or if I’m supposed to be late, maybe I’m meant to be there late.
Maybe there’s something greater coming. Or if something doesn’t happen the exact way
that I believe it should happen, I know and my first thought is, there’s something way
greater coming. So this is just the types of miracles that occur and the ways that your
mind begins to shift when you start to practice these principles in your every corner of your
life. And so one of the really neat things that
happened for me is that I started to find really divine guidance throughout my life’s
experience. And I’ll give you one example of how that guidance starts to come in. When
you invite spirit and inspiration into your life and you start to crack open and start
to perceive your ways in a little bit of a more positive perspective, you start to see
a lot of synchronicity show up. And so what happens is is that synchronicity is always
available to us at all times. But our fear-based thoughts block that synchronicity. We cut
off communication with our internal GPS. That loving voice is always there, it’s always
working, it’s always saying, go to that room, forgive your boss, they didn’t mean to be
that way, or choose to see this differently, or yes, you can have that job. Your loving
voice is always ready to bring you that loving perspective. But the negative voice within
us, that chatter of all of that fear-based beliefs, cuts that communication off. It just
cuts it off at the knees. And that communication, when it’s cut off, [claps hands lightly] blocks
the synchronistic flow that we are all allowed and ready to receive at all times. So that
synchronicity of wanting that new job and that perfect employer being sitting next to
you on the bus, if you’re in a low-level thought, your energy is lowered, you won’t be smiling
and that employer can’t talk to you. So you’re cutting off the communication. You’re cutting
off the guidance. So once I opened up to that guidance, I started to see the synchronicity
show up in every form. And often that that synchronicity, particularly early on, will
come in the form of your teachers and your guides. And so for me I started to witness
how I opened up to make these changes in my life and I was really ready to at this point
in my life I had been sober for awhile, I put down all of the substances. I had started
to recover from my work addiction. And I was recovering from my issues with food stuff.
But I was still hung up in my romantic relationships. It was a really trippy corner of my life.
And so I, I turned to my inner guidance system and I started to surrender again, much like
I did on October 2. I said I am willing to see things differently, I am ready to change.
I need another miracle. And so I started to pray for this miracle and affirmed my desire
to change. And so I started to get this guidance from the universe. And one of my neighbors
suggested that I meet this woman named Rha Goddess. He said there’s this really groovy
woman, she’s out there, she’s doing great work with women, much like what you’re doing,
you should totally meet her. So I said, ok that sounds cool. A week later my friend and
I are having lunch and she says, “You need to meet my friend Rha Goddess.” I said, “Oh,
this is the second time I’ve heard this, I guess I should meet this lady.” I e-mailed
this Rha Goddess, I’m like, ‘hey Rha Goddess, I guess we’re supposed to meet and I, I put
it out there and she’s like, listen, I’d love to meet. I’m out of the country for most of
March, maybe we can meet when I get back’. I said to her, well, I’m actually leaving
the country in March, too, I’m going to visit this medium in Brazil for a spiritual quest.
She said, “Oh, I’m gonna be visiting this same medium in Brazil the same week that you’re
there.” I said, “Ok, maybe I’ll see you in Brazil, ok.” So I go off to Brazil, I don’t
meet Rha. A week, that, that, on my flight back from Brazil I’m sitting next to a woman
who had been there as well and she says to me, “Oh, you live in New York. It sounds like
you’re doing neat work. You should totally meet this woman. Take this card.” Rha Goddess.
A week later I’m in New Orleans for Eve Ensler’s V-Day. And I’m looking at the lineup of different
speakers and I see 12 noon Rosario Dawson, and we’ve got Jane Fonda and then at 2:00
p.m., Rha Goddess. So it became very clear to me that this woman was going to be some
kind of powerful influence in my life in some form. And so I took the universal memo and
I finally found my friend and I said ‘ok Rha, let’s meet, let’s take some time just to get
together. Clearly we are being pushed into each other’s lives, the synchronicity is way
too wild. Show me what you got. Let’s hang out.’ So we meet up and as I mentioned I was
going through a lot of my own personal traumas at this time. I was, I was coaching, I was
teaching, but I was teaching young women how to release fear in their romantic relationships,
but meanwhile I felt like a fraud because I was feeling completely fearful in that way.
And my willingness to change guided me. So I go and I meet with Rha and I say, listen
you know I would love to talk about business to business, what are you doing? And she begins
to tell me instead of talking about business, she starts telling me about how she called
in her romantic partner and her husband and she started to beam about how she got over
all of her fear-based illusions and came to a place where she was a much more loving perspective
and had this amazing relationship with her husband and was so proud of the work she had
done around her romance. And so I said to her, “Awesome, I want that, that’s what I
want.” And I knew that she had coached people, so I said, “Do you still coach people?” And
she said I only coach a handful of people a year and they’re people that I want to take
to the next level. I coach people just like you. And I said, “Tell me where to sign the
check. Where do I sign up?” And she then became my guide, became my teacher. That slight willingness
opened that door for me to be led to the woman who would be the change maker, who would be
the container for me to do all the transformational work that I needed to do to kick this one
fear that had been holding me back, had me in a headlock for 28 years, and through the
work I did with Rha, I was able to release those chains and now today live in a very
free-flowing, incredible way. But this is just a beautiful example of how when you do
become willing, when you invite that spiritual intervention, when you invite that guidance
around you, when you open up the dialog for that communication, then you can allow that
synchronicity to pour into your life and guide you to the right people, guide you to the
right book, guide you to the right lecture, guide you to the right bookstore, wherever
you need to be to be led to your greatest teacher who will be the catalyst for your
change. And so my hope for you today, my goal for
you today, was to open up your mind to start to see the corners of your life where things
aren’t flowing naturally. To take a little magnifying glass and say, “Things could be
more clear here. I could be happier in this area of my life. I could have more flow over
here. I’d like to see things differently here.” And start to open up and become willing to
make that change. And so much like myself I want to be very clear this, this shift does
not require a lot of work out there. It requires a commitment in here. It requires a daily
intention. The world around us gives us plenty of opportunities to think and feel crazy fear.
Right? All we have to do is just turn on the news. All we have to do is sometimes show
up to the office and then that fear just comes down upon us. Not here at Google, but in other
offices. It’s not so fearful here, it’s pretty groovy. People are riding bikes and you know,
doing whatever. But, but in general we have a lot of chaos that we need to, we wake up
in the morning and it’s like we got to put on our armor because walking out the door
is gonna give us another opportunity to have fear in front of us. And so we have a lot
of work to do to overcome these fear-based projections. And so the first step for each
of you is just to become willing to see things differently. And so much like myself, I hope
for all of you to become conscious and aware of the ways in which your limiting beliefs,
your fear-based projections, your negative thoughts are holding you back. How are they
keeping you small? How are they keeping you stuck? How are they lowering your energy?
How is your negative energy affecting your life’s experience? Right? How are you when
you show up on that date and you’re like, “I hate going on dates. I suck at dates.”
Right? Is that really attractive? Not really, right? [giggles] I don’t think that’s very
attractive. Or, you know, you show up and you’re trying to get your review and you’re
going in for your review and you’re like, oh my God, oh my God, I suck, I suck. You’re
not supporting your employer wanting to raise you up, right? You need to raise yourself
up if you want the world to reflect that back to you. Remembering that the outside world
is a reflection of our internal state and if we want to have the world support us, we
have to support ourselves. And so we have to support ourselves with our thoughts first
and foremost. So I hope for each of you to take a little brief moment of this story of
my experience of how I chose that other way, I lived in that way of fear and projection
and then I chose to see things differently. Now one of the greatest tools I’ve been using
throughout my practice is the practice of meditation and prayer. Now prayer can be for
you something as simple as setting an intention. It could be your little alarm clock on your
Android that comes up in the morning and says, I choose to have a good day today. I choose
to see things in a positive perspective. Whatever it may be, just setting a positive intention
daily is a massive part of this practice. Meditation. How many of you practiced meditation
with Thich Nhat Hanh? Did you guys get a chance to do that? I’m so happy, I’m so jealous.
So hopefully you learned something from him. Maybe you can take something from him. But
throughout my book every chapter has a guided meditation. I created a meditation album to
accompany this book. So having a guided meditation practice often when you’re, if you’re a meditation
newbie and you’ve never meditated before, find a guide, whether it be me, go on to iTunes
and just Google guided meditation. I’ll come up, other teachers will come up, Thich Nhat
Hanh will come up, Jack Kornfield will come up, Sharon Salzburg, all these beautiful teachers.
Let these teachers just lead you. Allow that guidance to open up your right brain, which
is your creative capacity. The part of each of you that’s gonna have the inspired ideas
that will keep the interweb moving, right? We need you people to be inspired. And to
have that loving voice just present in your life. And that when we sit in stillness for
five minutes a day, I’m gonna prescribe to each of you five minutes a day for the next
thirty days. Just give yourself five minutes of stillness. You live in a beautiful environment.
You can probably go to your backyard, sit outside somewhere, sit on campus somewhere
here for five minutes, sit in the sun, listen to your favorite song, listen to a guided
meditation, listen to Thich Nhat Hanh, listen to the voice of a teacher that guides you
and just allow yourself to tune in to your power energy. Activate that loving presence
within you. And all it needs, all that this requires, is five minutes of stillness. And
so give yourself that. Give yourself that moment of ‘I choose to see things differently’.
Maybe you do set your alarm in the morning that says I choose to see things differently.
And just allow yourself to awake into another perspective. And then also just most importantly,
start to focus on the good stuff as many people like to say in this business. Focus on what
is enlightening to you. Focus on what you do have. Focus on all of the resources in
front of you. Whenever you get into a mindset of lack, say I have the most awesome job on
the planet, which you all have a great job, right? I have beautiful employees, I have
great lunch, whatever it is. Just focus on the amazing things. And what happens when
gratitude is our attitude is that we raise the energy again and that energy raises our
life’s experience. So start to pay attention and focus on the good stuff. And be conscious
in every moment of your day when those limiting beliefs come in, when those negative thoughts
show up and be very aware to not judge your fear-based thoughts with more fear. Be very
gentle with yourself when you begin this process of paying attention to your thoughts, because
at first you might be like, oh, my God, I only think fear all the time. This is a mess.
I can’t get over this. I’ll never ever get over this, right? But rather than doing that,
just start to pay attention of, just witness, as Eckhart Tolle says, he says, “Be the witness
to the thinker.” So just witness the thoughts very gently. Be kind and forgiving to yourself.
I like to say practice the f-word, the forgiveness. And really allow yourself to be really present
with that forgiveness practice of really being kind to yourself, being gentle with your thoughts,
saying, well, of course I had that negative thought. I’ve been thinking that thought for
30 years, but you know today I’m gonna choose to see things differently. And be very very
kind when you embark on this process. And then a major tool that I want to leave
you with is that you can begin to practice the f-word in all of your affairs and start
practicing forgiveness as often as you can. When we carry a resentment towards someone
it’s like drinking poison. We are the one who carries around that negative belief system.
We are the one who just keeps harboring that negativity. And we take that negative fear-based
experience and we bring it into the present moment and we project it onto all the, all
the other relationships that we have. That employer who fired us at some point we bring
that into the new job. We create the opportunity to be fired again. That relationship that
was negative, we bring that into the new romantic relationship and we create more chaos in every
corner there. So be conscious of how your resentments are holding you back and become
clear and ready and willing to let them go. And so the practice of forgiveness can be
very scary for people and so there’s three simple steps I’ll leave you with. And one
of them is to become willing to forgive, witnessing who you need to forgive and be willing to
forgive. The second step is to become conscious of your side of the street. How have you been
participating in your negative resentment? Maybe you’re participation is that you’ve
been unwilling to forgive. Maybe your participation is that you had some negative stuff that you
did, too. But be very conscious to clean up your side of the street. Forgive yourself
for whatever you did, but be aware of your part. And then the third step is to surrender
and be willing to forgive daily. All you have to do in this third part is just to say to
yourself every morning, every night, ‘I choose to release you, I choose to forgive you’.
Whether it be yourself, whether it be another person, whether it be an institution, whoever
you or whatever you are willing to let go of. Say ‘I choose to forgive you, I choose
to release you’. And practice that mantra. Whenever that fear-based projection comes
up, just set that intention one more time. ‘I choose to forgive you, I choose to release
you’. And that moment when you make that decision, the moment that you affirm your desire to
forgive, you awaken that inner guidance system. You reconnect with that voice and you can
be guided once again to the teachers, the assignments and all the things that you need
to allow that forgiveness process to occur. And you don’t have to figure it out anymore,
you just have to be willing and surrender it and allow the universe to show you what
she’s got, ok? So that’s, that, these are just some different tips throughout the book
that I’ve given you now, just to give you a broad overview of the different ways that
I have been practicing the life of a spirit junkie in changing my own perceptions.
And so today I do live a life beyond my wildest dreams. Today my job is to come and hang out
at Google on an afternoon on Friday and be with people like yourself and carry these
messages. Today I live an inspired life. Today I feel intuitive guidance all the time. All
of my hang ups have melted away. All of the things that I feel I need I know they’re coming
or greater. And I allow this work to just grow and expand naturally because I live inspired.
And so I hope for each of you to find a way throughout your life’s experience to awaken
your -ing, your inner guidance system, and start to practice the spirit junkie way. And
start to welcome your own perceptual shifts one moment at a time.
So before we take some questions, I’m just gonna wrap up with, I like to, at the end
of all my book lectures, just read the last page and a half of the book, to just give
you sort of an insight as what happens once you start to live as spirit junkie. So here
we go. [pause] “Constant contact with spirit got me here. When it came time to conclude
this book, I found myself putting it off. I wanted to savor the last chapter, take my
time, and allow the words to pour through me. And I did just that. I waited. I revisited
all the chapters leading up to this point. Reflecting on the pages of this book I was
astounded to find that I didn’t even realize what I had created. There were stories and
sentences that seemed as though they’d come from a higher source. I kept thinking, ‘I
don’t remember writing this.’ This experience was a sure sign that I had done good. I’d
truly allowed spirit to enter into the process and guide me. Clearly I hadn’t over thought
the contents of the book, but rather allowed the work to flow creatively from my inside
out. This book is an extension of my spirit and all the inner guidance that I choose to
work with. By listening to this guidance I’ve enjoyed every second of the writing process.
I’ve healed more, learned more and loved more. I’ve deepened my relationship with spirit
throughout the collaborative effort to create this book for you. Throughout my process of
creating this work, I felt a presence by my side. Often a rush of energy would pour through
my hands. Inspired ideas would come to me in the middle of the night. Human guidance
was always present and new assignments led to authentic content. Each moment of the process
has been guided and I hope you felt the presence of a power greater than me pour off each page.
Each word, thought and sentence is infused with spirit’s love. Together let’s say thank
you. We thank the infinite loving universe and the beautiful spirit that flows through
each of us. We thank spirit for your guidance, your inspiration, your lessons and your support.
We thank you for reminding us to have faith in love. With endless love and gratitude,
I send you off with the spiritual connection of your own understanding. A connection that
will be yours to grow and share with the world, an everlasting companion on your miraculous
journey in word. May you release your fear, have faith in spirit, expect miracles and
always listen to your inner guide.” So I will leave you with that. I will take any questions
if anyone has them related to anything. I wonder, any questions? Looking at you. Do
you have a question? [laughter]>>Gabrielle Bernstein: Somebody’s gotta have
some kind of question. I know you’re in your office. Yes?>>male #1: [inaudible]>>Gabrielle Bernstein: What was that?>>male #1: How much we have achieved [inaudible]>>Gabrielle Bernstein: Through meditation,
yes.>>male #1: [inaudible]>>Gabrielle Bernstein: I love this question.
Thank you for this question. So, yes, there is a dramatic shift that occurs when you have
a meditation practice. I one day at a time began to expand that practice. And it’s much
like going to the gym. So it’s like when you first start working out, you feel, you’re
sore and it’s uncomfortable and you kind of hate going, but the more you go the more it
becomes second nature, the more you enjoy the practice, the more it becomes part of
who you are. And so that was my experience with meditation. And so one day at a time,
I grew this practice which was 5 minutes, 10 minutes, 20 minutes. Eventually I would
get to a place where I could sit for an hour and just be in stillness and what would happen
for me was that I would lose track of time. Time became irrelevant and I would open up
that right brain and I could create images in my mind. I could start to have inspired
ideas come forward, sort of psychic projections in many cases, knowing, seeing things like
if I was working on a project I would hear a strong intuition that would say, role model,
or say word or something would come through in my writing. And these conscious moments
of divine inspiration became my greatest, my next right action in my career or became
a relationship I needed to be guided into. So what happened was I opened up this creative
capacity to experience that guidance and most importantly, I began to experience tremendous
flow within my life. I started to feel at ease. So today because of my practice I wake
up with a tremendous amount of ease. I wake up and I feel good. And in those moments when
I feel out of center and off kilter, I know how to tune back in. So for five minutes I
can just go sit in stillness and breathe, set some positive intentions and be back in
that centered state. So it’s really what happens when you have a meditation practice is that
you learn how to recalibrate your energy in any moment and knowing that this is your greatest
tool, your body, your being, your energy, your spirit is your greatest asset and through
meditation you can begin to learn how to tune, that dial that up, like tune into the frequency
of a loving presence on a moment to moment basis. So the best gift that any of you could
give yourselves in this world is the practice of meditation. May you find it, I hope you
do. Anybody else? I knew, I had a feeling that you guys might be a little quiet and
introspective, but that’s ok. So, so listen, if there are any more questions, I would love
to take them. Yes, Christine.>>Christine: [inaudible] So I actually know
Gabby, we’re friends, but I have to ask this question because I know that you were like
the book launch and you were traveling around and you have a lot of stress in your life
right now and I’m [inaudible] would be a lot of stress trying to juggle lots of things,
so I’m just curious like what you’re doing right now to keep your energy level up and
you know be able to do all the things that you’re doing, [inaudible] all the things that
your doing besides just meditation that any one of us could, you know, bring into our
lives.>>Gabrielle Bernstein: Great question. Yeah.
So what am I doing to manage my stress levels right now? You know in general in any area
of your life but especially being on a book tour and traveling a lot or whatever. And
for each of you having high-powered jobs, all the things you have to deal with, manage.
For me there’s, there’s several different way that I stay in tune, like I mentioned,
where I stay calibrated into a loving frequency. The first way obviously is through my meditation
practice. The second way is through that conscious contact with my inner guidance system. So
it’s consciously speaking, maybe it’s an internal dialog, maybe sometimes it’s saying it out
loud, maybe sometimes setting an intention by writing it in, in a notebook. But consciously
setting the moment to moment intention to stay centered. To be in the moment. To be
ok with whatever is right in front of me. If I start thinking about all of the cities
that I have to visit in the next ten days or in the next three weeks, I will go nuts.
But focusing on what it is, what’s my next right action today? What is right in front
of me? I’m really focusing into the present moment. And being in that present moment allows
me to just be cool. I’m here at Google. I mean this is awesome. I can’t be here with
you guys worrying about where I’m gonna be next weekend. Then I cannot be present with
you. Then that stress level does get raised. Then I am not my authentic truth, I am not
my highest service and I’m not being me. So focusing on the moment to moment situations.
And then most importantly practicing forgiveness in all of the areas of my life. Because if
I start getting resentful at others then I lower my energy, I get sick, I cannot support
what I need to do. So when I get pissed off because the airplane isn’t on time or I get
mad because I’m not getting the feedback that I need to from my publicist or whatever it
is, I practice the f-word. So I will say you know that gentle moment of I choose to forgive
you, I choose to release you and let go of whatever it is that I need to just let go
of because I cannot focus on that negative stuff if I want to live and be this beautiful
container to do this work. And each of you have massive, massive jobs and you must keep
your channel, your instrument clear so that you can hold that work, feel good, be balanced
and have a vibrant life at the same time. So those are some of the tools I use.>>Christine: And stop, drop and meditate.>>Gabrielle Bernstein: Yes, yes, yes, that’s
a good one. So, so I have this moment where I stop, drop and meditate. If I have these
moments where I’m feeling like I’m all over the place and my message to myself is stop,
drop and meditate. And it’s you know just go wherever you are, sometimes I’ll go into
a bathroom and I’ll just shut the stall and I’ll say, “I choose to release this” and I’ll
breathe for five minutes or five breaths, five deep breaths. A powerful meditation is
just breathing into your feelings. Just identifying wherever you might be holding on to any discomfort.
Join me in that right now. Everybody shut your eyes for a minute. Shut your eyes. You
wanted to meditate, let’s meditate, ready? Ok, so shut your eyes and sit up straight.
Uncross your legs. Put your palms facing upward. And just take a deep breath in your nose and
breathe out your mouth. And just identify any area in your body where you might be holding
on to any discomfort or anxiety and gently breathe into that space. Allow yourself to
be present with whatever is coming up for you. And on the exhale, release. Continue
this cycle of breath, of breathing deeply in to that space in your body where you might
be holding on to any discomfort, expand your feelings. Allow yourself to be present with
that emotion and on the exhale have a beautiful sigh of relief. Just let it go. Take a deeper
breath in, just expanding, feeling and allowing yourself to be present in that experience.
And on the exhale, release it even deeper. Take another deep, deep, deep breath in, just
honor, allow, accept whatever you are experiencing in this moment and take one last deep breath
and then release and when you’re ready, open your eyes to the room. You feel a little bit
better anybody? A little lighter? Yeah, I’m getting yeses, yes. That was 60 seconds. Right?
Sixty seconds. I just tuned a lot of you up, right? You guided yourself. And so that power
of just feeling your feelings, just being present with whatever is coming through you.
Just allowing yourself to open up that way of being, to open up your heart and just be
present with whatever you’re feeling. A really, a really important message of being a spirit
junkie is that, is not that we have to be happy all the time. Part of being really happy
is being ok with our unhappiness, being ok with our difficult feelings, being accepting
and comfortable being uncomfortable sometimes. And that’s part of being a happy person is
just allowing your emotions to be this beautiful rainbow of emotions, allow them to come in,
allow them to shift and constantly work to recalibrate back to that place of happiness.
And this is a practice that takes time and it takes commitment. And so I hope for you
all, I hope for you all to just really awaken. Yes, one more question, good.>>male #2: I realize [inaudible] ask a writer
this question,>>Gabrielle Bernstein: Cool.>>male #2: but in your, you know, journey
here as far as what part do you find actually write pen to paper plays and is it mandatory
you know for meditation and [inaudible]>>Gabrielle Bernstein: Yep.>>male #2: being present but will we find
it’s required work to put pen to paper?>>Gabrielle Bernstein: Yeah, yeah, so great
question. So is it required to put pen to paper as having a spiritual practice? Yes.
So in my first book, Add More -ing to Your Life, I had three steps in thirty days for
every chapter. So the ing equation is rethinking, moving and receiving times 30 days equals
changing. Ok? So the rethinking was the positive thoughts and the moving was physical activity,
so combining those two, followed by meditation. Every meditation I followed with what I called
an -ing write, an inspired writing exercise, it’s just free writing. Just stream of conscious
writing. One of the most powerful tools you can do when you begin to awaken this presence
of your inner guidance system is to just stream of conscious writing exercises. Just get a
notebook. A clean beautiful notebook, and allow your pen to flow. Allow that inspired
voice to come forward. Sometimes you hear it, but the best way to connect often can
be to just write it out. So yes, if you do start your meditation practice, I would strongly
suggest that you have a notebook by your side and when you come out of that meditation,
just give yourself five to ten minutes of stream of conscious writing exercises and
so much will come forward. Thoughts that you may not have ever let come through. Don’t
just jump out of your meditation and pick up your Android, ok? Come out of your meditation
and write for ten minutes and just let it marinate and let that inspired movement come
through you naturally and put it on the page and know that that is beautiful direction.
So that’s a great, great point. Thank you for bringing that up. Yeah? Cool, yes.>>male #3: Earlier you mentioned about using
meditation to recondition your thought. Can you give an example for that? How to do it?>>Gabrielle Bernstein: Sure, sure. So how
do we use meditation to recondition our thoughts? So what happens when we meditate is that we,
we tune in to that creative part of our brain, we tune in to that and a more relaxed state
occurs, right? So interestingly enough what happens is is that we start to raise that
feeling vibration, but even if that negative thought continues to come in, the best thing
to do when you sit with that thought is to not try to push it away. Just allow it to
be present in your meditation. Allow it to come in. Allow it to leave. Allow it to come
back. Allow it to leave. We start to get into this place of like trying to push the negative
thought away and change the thought proactively, we create more negativity around it. It’s
kind of like, you know, fighting with a barking dog. It’s like you gotta just let the dog
freak out, right? So the, the, the process of sitting in stillness, that chatter of voice
in your mind will show up. It will be so loud, it will be so present, it will be, it will
want to come in. You’ll feel a little good then it’ll come really, really loud. And so
the main thing I suggest for you is just to let it be with you. Just let that voice be
part of the experience. The same way you might be listening to the sounds in the room, you
can listen to the sound of that negative voice and just allowing it to be with you the same
way you allow that uncomfortable feeling to be with you allows it to come in and allows
it to go. But when you try to push against it, it’s like pushing against the stream.
You can’t, you’ll get bulldozed over, ok? So just allow it to be with you. And what
you’ll start to recognize is when you start to deepen that connection and that communication
to your loving voice, you will have less faith in that fearful voice. And that is how the
transformation occurs. So you’ll have less faith in that voice. Now in my guided meditation
albums, I also guide you to new perceptions. So I’ll say, ok, imagine yourself in a loving
place. I’ll take you on a journey through your mind so that you have that guidance.
And that’s a lovely way too, because sometimes your inner guide is not strong enough yet
to lead the way, so you can have a loving guide lead you down a beautiful path and help
you create this inspired vision that will help you transform those thoughts. Yes. Any
other questions? [pause] Ok. So I’m gonna hang out at Google. I’m gonna stick around.
If anyone has questions for me, feel free to come up and we can chat. And if anybody
buys a book, I’m happy to sign it for you. Alex, anything else? Do you wanna ask anything?
You good?>>Alex: Ok.>>Gabrielle Bernstein: It was a real pleasure
to be with you guys, thank you so very much. Thanks for showing up for yourselves today.
Thanks for showing up for your spirit junkie mentality and I hope you all take even, if
you take one thing I mentioned today. If you take one exercise, one message, I can guarantee
miraculous shifts. If you apply one shift, one thought, expect miracles. Thank you very
much. [applause]